May I just say something? May I just be real with you for a second? I just got done doing some research on pornography……and I am REALLY wondering how long it’s going to take for this nation to SEE the consequences of it. I am fully aware this day may never come. I am FULLY AWARE of all of you out there who think my story is a lost cause….thinking nothing will make a difference in the minds of us sexual beings.
I am fully aware and frankly, if you don’t mind me being blunt, I don’t really care what the ratio is of the people my story reaches verses the people that spit at it. I do a small little research on the internet or read a little more of a couple books and I KNOW and am 100% POSITIVE that the few e-mails I receive every day of people realizing they want to live a healthier life are WORTH EVERY SECOND of persecution that comes my way.
I’ve said it before….I didn’t want to necessarily draw any more attention to my life than what was already there. I didn’t want to put my story up on the internet. I knew what it would bring…I knew the barriers and the persecution I would face…..but I’m doing it. I’m doing it because whether you like it or not, it’s enlightening peoples’ minds to see the detriment that their actions have caused their well being.
There, I went on a tangent and it wasn’t even what I wanted to talk about! It’s no secret that I think pornography inevitably brings damaging affects to your life (hah..)….but I am always very mindful and think everyone should also pay attention to where it really starts.
It’s one thing that we’re human and sex is a natural temptation for us…marketers have definitely played on this for profitable gain. Sure, the porn industry is a multibillion dollar industry, but how many other companies have been successful based on the old truth, “sex sells”.
From a very young age, ‘sex’ is everywhere. We catch on without even realizing it, being hit by over 3000 advertisements a day. More than ever, little girls feel they have to act or dress a certain way in order to get attention from boys. I think part of this is intuitive…nature…but I think most of how boys and girls interact with each other is based on what society says is appropriate. Where do our perceptions form? What is being communicated to us? Below are a couple of recent examples:
1. Britney Spears new song “Three” about a threesome. A few lyrics…
“Are - you in
Livin' in sin is the new thing (yeah)
Are - you in
I am countin'!
1, 2, 3
Not only you and me
Got one eighty degrees
And I'm caught in between
Countin'
1, 2, 3
Peter, Paul & Mary
Gettin' down with 3P
Everybody loves uuh
Countin'”
2. A Quote from a successful Chris Rock tour:
“Your man has been watching porno since he was 12 yrs old. He’s got these images in his head and he wants to relive some of this s**t before he drops dead. That’s right ladies, get up on it, get up on it. Listen to what I’m about to say…just because he “came”, don’t mean you made him cum!” (He pauses as the audience claps)….”Did you hear what the f*** I just said?! Just because he came, does NOT mean you made him cum!”
3. Just today, I saw a football commercial with Peyton Manning standing in front of huge screens. He was talking about how everyone needed to be watching football in HD for the crystal clear view of the ‘moves’ and ‘turns’, etc….all the while, the screens behind him were close ups of the cheerleaders from all the different teams. Not once was a clip of a player showed on the screens.
4. There’s a popular night club that advertises on a local radio station. Every Saturday night, there is a ladies award for the “Most Provocative Dancer”.
5. Advertisements like this are endless:
6. An example a little closer to home, is the fact that websites have stolen Dawson Miller’s picture for their advertisements, youtube videos, and dating website profiles just to get people to click or watch.
These are just a few examples that have stood out to me over the past week. Some of them might even seem ‘harmless’ to some…what’s so bad about NFL cheerleaders? They’re not doing anything bad. I think what’s most important to focus on is the message. What is the commercial communicating? If I were a 10 yr old girl or boy and happened to see that commercial, how would it affect me?
You see, it’s not just about if soft core pornography is as damaging as hard core….we’re affected WAY earlier on than our first view of a porno. I personally didn’t see my first pornographic movie until I was 16…much later than when most men start viewing but yet I had already been 100% affected by this world and what it’s told me about sex and how to be sexual.
In the next week, why don’t you pay extra attention to the subtle innuendos that are in our everyday life that either affects you or those much younger than you?
Thanks for reading! I know I got a little preachy, but it continues to amaze me the blind eye we turn to obvious red flags in our culture. :)
2 comments:
Very nice post Justine. 'Tis so true how the world gleefully feeds us the forbidden fruit and we devour it like a pack of esurient wolves. My wife and I went on a T.V. fast and were shocked by the things we saw when we returned to viewing our favorite programs (nothing was new, we had just become desensitized); as I have stated before sin is like a snowball that turns into an avalanche: It starts with little compromises (a harmless cheerleader, a catchy tune) but soon that tiny snowball begins to gather momentum and mass and is soon speeding downhill and is out of control; we begin doing and thinking things we never would have considered before; the flesh becomes our cynosure.
God does not put a premium on souls; if you even convince one person to stop looking at porn and start looking to God than this ministry was worthwhile. Christ be with you and your husband.
-dc-
sadly, this is the world we live in. Sex sells everything now. My friends 6 year old daughter would see the Herbal Essence commercials and she would be in the bathroom taking a bath and going "ooooooh oooooh yeah" and he wondered what it was and she said she was acting like the ladies on the commercial...geez! Today's tv programming and movies depict sex in a way that teenagers think its cool to go out and have sex and get pregnant. They are influenced by music as you posted in your blog about the Britney song. Rap music is another bad influence. Most of them grabbing their crotch and singing about fucking, big asses..etc....Its a shame.
TV programming used to be funny. Sex could be used to bring comedy and make people laugh. Now sex is the basis for every show. Grey's Anatomy. This show is supposed to be about doctors am I right? Yet the previews mention them sleeping with each other. This is every tv show though. I think its funny we live in a country where saying "shit, fuck, bitch...etc" is censored in music and on regular television. Same with sex. Yet they use sex to sell everything here. Goto Europe and there is no censorship on sex and language. Kids know what sex is and they know the bad words so doesnt really matter about age. They hear and see these things on movies and music.
I wont lie, yes I have seen the Dawson Miller pictures. I watched your story from the video you posted on here. Its very informative and gets to the point. It shows how easily a young beautiful woman can be influenced by money so quickly. I look at publications like Playboy as tasteful because they do not exploit the female body as such magazines like Penthouse where women shove cucumbers up their va-jay-jay's and have men screwing them. My gf and I have made video's of ourselves but for us only and never to post on the internet.
I can only imagine the father's that buy the Girls Gone Wild DVDs and after watching it many times discovers his barely legal teenage daughter is in the video doing sexual things to herself or better yet doing sexual things with a guy. He could never look at her the same way again. What is worse is that these girls do this for a mere t-shirt and what....bragging rights?!? Stupid!! Exploitation at its finest!
I look at your current situation and its sad that these website owners can use your pics all they want to make money off your body. Thats BS. There should really be a law on that. If i were ever to see you out in public I would say hi to Justine not Dawson. Even though the reference to me knowing who you are is because of Dawson im sure it would be nice to know people would refer to you by who you "really" are and not what your internet image still is. Those guys could go onto some other woman and make money off them but I think its a personal vendetta they have on you that they keep the site up with your pics. There is only so much material they can post until they run out and no one wants to join a site that never updates with "new" material.
Its great you have moved on and left that industry behind you. Although it will haunt you for a long while you have strongly moved on and not allowed it to hold you back. Keep the great blogs coming.
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