Readers:
I am thinking of ways to best handle this and I'd like your opinions. Sometimes, I get comments with sentences that are SO inappropriate that I will post them after editing them. The problem is, I can't edit them and post them as a comment. If I edit them, I have to post it as an actual post and to be frank, some comments just don't deserve that much attention. :) On the contrary, sometimes I receive comments via e-mail that have some great points.
I would like those who disagree with me to feel they can post their thoughts/feelings. However, because I respect those who read this blog, I won't allow any flippant, visual sexual verbiage, etc.
I am thinking whenever necessary, maybe once or twice a month, to post a 'cluster' of comments I had to edit or from my e-mail. What do you think? Everything would be anonymous, of course.
Thanks for any input.
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I believe this would be a good idea for two reasons:
1. It would allow us, your readers, to observe the castigation you deal with whilst attempting to cast light on the life crippling, joy stealing, relationship ending, family separating issue of porn which in turn would allow those of us that wish your ministry and marriage success to better pray for, edify and encourage you.
2. It would allow you, the blogger, to share with us some of the behind the scenes difficulties of stepping up and trying to make a change when you have had a less than perfect background; moreover, it will allow you to garner another perspective on the words of your belligerents.
And who knows, maybe anon-a-mouse will think twice before posting venom kissed filth if he/she knows the whole world is going to be reading.
Good morning.
Hi Justine,
Just my opinion here, but I would move your site off of the blogger platform and onto something over which you have more control.
Software from WordPress.org is free, and you just need to pay a hosting company a small (less than $5) monthly fee to host it for you.
The WordPress software even allows you to import your content from blogger.com. I'm not saying it wouldn't take some work, but the payoff would be huge: full control over every aspect of your site.
Then when comments come in you can edit as much or as little of them as you like before they show up on your posts.
My two cents.
I don't see any problem with it as long as it is kept anonymous.
Cool. Call it The Swamp, or the Island of Misfit Thoughts.
No, because it legitimizes your martyr complex. Just ignore them.
Well, regarding this topic I do have several questions.
First, do you alone post your own topics, or does someone such as a family member or friend help you write these? Please understand I’m not asking this facetiously, but trying to get some background familiarity on your posts.
What exactly are you looking for in conversing via this blog? Reinforcement from others regarding your faith? Open dialect about religion? Open dialect (with clean verbiage) about porn?
In your heart are you trying to put your life-experiences in the past, or trying to hold onto them to help you grow in your faith?
Do you want to influence others with this site?
Would you consider this more of a healing process, or a growth process, or both?
How do you feel about open (and respectful, non-condescending) dialog from those that are atheists or agnostics?
Do you at all separate your style of nude photos from those that others have done while they where having sex, or would you say that they are one and the same?
Would you see any beauty in your photos if they had been done under more healthy circumstances, i.e.; your life (for the most part) was the only one “affected”?
Respectfully,
Steve in California
Hello Justine.
I would like to say few things about your blog in general. You see...I've visited dawson miller site many many times, then recently I have accidently found your blog, red few posts and watched the video where your telling your story and show your real personality, I must say it was a great shock to me! It made me think about what porn really is, and how it's affecting me. I am really glad that I found out who you really are. The things you said were inspiring to me. I really respect what you are doing.
I apologise for my english, I come from Europe.
Hello Justine.
I would like to say few things about your blog in general. You see...I've visited dawson miller site many many times, then recently I have accidently found your blog, red few posts and watched the video where your telling your story and show your real personality, I must say it was a great shock to me! It made me think about what porn really is, and how it's affecting me. I am really glad that I found out who you really are. The things you said were inspiring to me. I really respect what you are doing.
I apologise for my english, I come from Europe.
Go for it Justine. It's your blog and so you set the rules. I appreciate you for asking!
Amsterdam
Hi Justine,
If you feel like you should publish some of those comments because they would illuminate your message then go for it.
I'm writing about the link on your blog to Genesis Counseling. I checked it out and couldn't help but notice that Joe Dallas views homosexuality as a sexual problem which needs to be cured. I just can't understand that type of thinking, even within a Christian context. There are Christian sects which don't think that way.
It seems to me that this type of worldview, one that strives for some skewed and unobtainable sexual purity is a very destructive path to go down. My personal viewpoint is that sexuality is a very complex issue. Exploitation of actors and actresses in porn is a very important issue, as are the destructive effects porn and adultery can have on relationships obviously.
I've seen your Dawson Miller videos and you seem very healthy and happy in them. I'm sure some of that was an act but at the same time I'm sure much of your personality shone through. I'm an older man in very poor health who is unattached and watching your videos transports me back to a time I was young and in love with a beautiful girl. Much more than any romantic hollywood movie does because there is a level of intimacy afforded by your videos that reminds me of those times I spent as a young lover. It's actually a very positive experience for me. I'm not addicted to porn but I do use it every so often to help with sexual release. My memories are nice but I need to see a naked woman at times. It's what I have at this point because of my poor health I don't have the desire to look for a serious relationship, that just wouldn't be fair to a woman.
Anyway, I do think that there are positive roles that porn can play in society. I also think that you should be proud of the beauty you showed in those videos and the genuine happiness you have brought to some men. I think it's no different than writing a song that many people enjoy. I do understand though how you don't want to be defined by your body, or as Dawson Miller. And how many men can view the glimpses of intimacy you provided as a disposable commodity.
I just hate to see people burdened and battered by guilt thrown at them by friends and family members who lack perspective. Young people make mistakes, test boundaries and explore their sexuality. It's natural. And people of all ages express themselves sexually in many different ways. It's very natural too. If these things negatively affect the relationships they want to have then by all means be honest and try to change. More power to you in spreading your message telling young people not to make the same mistakes you think you and your husband did. But I think I'm old and wise enough to caution people not to put things into black and white catagories.
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