Well....Thank you to those who shared their thoughts on the anonymous comment.
I'm sitting here eating my 'protein pizza' (I'm on a health kick lately) and I'm thinking about how bizarre this whole "judgement" stuff is.
It's a mentality really...."I won't judge you if you don't judge me"........"I'm not one to judge".......when someone has an opinion about a situation, they're automatically 'judging'.
On the other side of the token, there's, "He/She deserves to be judged"...."If he/she didn't want to be judged, they should have thought twice about XYZ."
When is it okay to judge? Or is it never okay?
What's the different between judging someone......and expressing your beliefs because you truly care about that person and their situation?
Well...if you don't mind me sharing my two cents...since this is my blog after all:
If I were to answer that last question, I would say the only thing that's different is the motivation behind the judgement. I think expressing your beliefs because you truly care about someone and their situation essentially means you had to judge their situation in the first place.
This, I feel, is appropriate when a) Your attitude is in the right place (through prayer) b) You know just about every detail of this person and their situation and/or c) that person has allowed you to give your opinion.
The misconception I think people miss is it's okay to judge, at the right time, with the right mind set/attitude. I do not see the value in judging someone if the person judging is currently practicing the same act or if their attitude is not right.
I said, "currently".
Is anyone out there wondering, "how can that girl proclaim what she proclaims and says what she says when she's been guilty of this and that and blah blah.."?
Well...if you would allow me to share my perspective, I will.
I had an affair with a married man.
He left his family for me.
I did a nude website.
While I'm at it, I lost my virginity when I was 14.
I've smoked pot.
I drank in middle and high school.
You get the idea.
I am not meaning to be flippant when I refer to such delicate, painful, and destructive acts in my life. I listed those things out because each one of those are acts that I have participated in. Each one of those things I eventually realized my destructive behavior and by the grace of God, was able to turn around and stop living that way. It wasn't all at the same time. There were many different phases.
Each one of those things, I can look someone in the eye and tell them,
"Here's why I wouldn't smoke pot"
"Here's why I wouldn't drink illegally"
"Here's why I would wait until I get married to have sex"
"Here's why I wouldn't suggest doing a nude website"
"Here's why I would stop seeing that married man"
It's because I've lived it, got hurt from it, learned form it, stopped living that way, turned my life around, and am 100% not participating in the act anymore.
Going through the experience of a nude website and learning about the role of porn in this world has heightened my senses to the every day messages being shoved down our throats. Not everyone has gone through my experience.......so why wouldn't I share?
Because it's not my place?
It's much more than that....it's my responsibility.
Going back to my point.....I think it's unfortunate people take judgement the wrong way when it can actually be meant for good. The Bible says to first be kind and forgiving to that person, pray before confronting them so that you, yourself, have the right attitude, to be careful, as well as not to judge if you're doing the same thing. (Ephesians 4:32, Galatians 6:1)
I also found this excerpt from one of my favorite resource sites: www.gotquestions.org:
"...one of the most often quoted scriptures is "Judge not, lest ye be judged" (Matthew 7:1 KJV). Taken out of context, the verse has been used to incorrectly justify never taking a stand on anything that would require a judgment to be made. Rather, the verse is referring to hypocritical, self-righteous, unfair kinds of judgment, especially where the confronter is guilty of the same sin as the one being confronted."