Today was Tiger's press conference. His first appearance to the public was moving, in my opinion. I couldn't possibly imagine addressing the world on that scale. But it was necessary. For himself, his program, his fans, and those who love him and are witnessing this process that he's going through.
Although Tiger was very professional with his approach, there seemed to be many moments of sincerity. A few thoughts on what he said:
It brought to light the thought that anyone participating in any immoral act, doesn't weigh their 'costs' appropriately. "What will this cost me if it gets found out?" I'm not saying they're ignorant and don't know what the costs are...but rather careless in their process of thinking. So many people are looking at Tiger wondering, "weren't Elin and the kids enough?", "wasn't your career enough to keep you from making such detrimental decisions?"
You'd think so, huh?.............however..............on a massive scale like Tigers, or one like mine, or just little immoral steps taken on a day-to-day basis, there seems to be a definite lack of thorough consequence acknowledgment.
When he was sleeping with those women, he probably wasn't thinking about how it could affect his marriage, reputation, or the millions of teens lives he's help change. Now - all those people are left to wonder and are confused.
He has accepted full responsibility for his actions. He hasn't made any excuses. He's said he's sorry and that he was wrong. He said he felt the rules didn't apply to him but he's learned they do, just like every one else. He did mentioned that money and fame made his secret like easier. He also said it's hard to admit that he needs help...but knows he does. These are all statements made in the right direction in terms of 'recovery'.
He mentioned needing to live a life of integrity so that he "never repeats mistakes". For someone of his status, and the expectations he now has to live up to, I worry about him staying honest. He did say he was getting support from other peers and I hope that continues. If all seems to go well for awhile and people stop asking questions, it will be harder for him to remain honest. I'm not even saying he'll physically cheat again. But the emotional attachment to attractive women, or any other possible interests such as pornography could quickly lead him into a secret life again. As I said, this is just a worry - I truly hope for the amount of money he's paying in therapy, they will set every important aspect in place.
He talked about his faith and how he lost track of what he was taught growing up...that "a craving for things outside of ourselves causes an unhappy and pointless search for security." I respect where every one is coming from, but as you all have questions for me, my question would be, "When your craving is so natural, that even after all the years of hurt, struggle, embarrassment, and therapy - it's still there....when you realize you, yourself, are not secure enough....who do you turn to, then?"
Is the craving itself what makes you unhappy, or just acting on it?
He ended by asking those around him for help; for them to leave room in their heart to one day believe in him again.
I truly hope Tiger is taking each and every step with caution...realizing where he will run into problems in the future. I do believe he will struggle. I pray with a mighty heart that he and Elin will remain together and be an example for the Hollywood society we live in. Unfortunately, there will be those who judge, especially if Tiger messes up again....but the important thing is only Elin and Tiger know where they stand.
The only people they need to be transparent with is each other. Regardless of being 'Tiger Woods' the golfer with all of his endorsements and kids looking up to him, the key thing that is going to get his marriage through this is being 'Tiger Woods' as a husband and being real with his wife.