"Sex is just about the most powerful and explosive force that is built into us. Every instinct and every bit of counseling experience I have had tells me it is too dangerous a commodity to be handed over to people with no strings attached."
– Norman Vincent Peale
– Norman Vincent Peale
When you have 20 minutes or so to spare, please watch all three parts of this YouTube video. It seems to be a British channel that does a documentary on teens called “Too Much Too Young”. This particular documentary focuses on teen sex.
Perhaps you can identify with some of these teens as you think back to your first, possibly several experiences when you went “all the way”. What made you choose to go through with it? Did you even want to? What were your intentions? What were you going through in life?
I personally chose to have sex for the first time because I thought I loved my boyfriend….and when you loved your boyfriend, you had sex with him. That was my perception. I didn’t regret my decision until some time later.
The thing that is saddest to me about this documentary is when I hear these teens say that they have sex because it makes them feel important. They feel confident in themselves because someone else finds them interesting and attractive enough to have sex with. All consequences are dismissed if they aren’t tasting them, feeling them, experiencing them. Even ‘close calls’ don’t create a huge impact.
Why is that?
I mean….why wasn’t it enough for me? Or you?...when we were that age. What is it about the human mind that pushes you until you have a disease, a baby, or an addiction? What is it about sex? Because all in all…..this is about the sex. It’s not really about the drinking or the smoking when you’re a teen, but how those things mix in with how to get someone to like you….be with you….kiss you….and then want you. Sex doesn’t just drive the porn industry, it drives our world. It can drive our intentions; our motivations. It can be equivalent to the way we view ourselves. That is something extremely, extremely powerful!
Have you ever gone to a club or a place where there's dancing and took a step back to see the room as a whole? Now, I understand this isn't the case for all who might be in the room. But what I see when I've done this is a majority of the people are aged 18-3o or 40 something. Some are dancing, some are drinking and mingling, and some are watching those that are dancing. The latter happens to be mostly men, watching women, watching them move, and probably evaluating each one as to whether or not they'd accept a dancing partner.
I've witnessed the exchange between a man and a woman who are strangers that start dancing with each other. Like I said before, I know there are some people who probably just want to dance. But there are other people who see this communication totally different. It's an "in", a "possibility". They start dancing, grinding, drinking, and for what? To see if there's a connection, a chance to go home with one or the other.
And this happens....all. the. time. It's the way of life for many people. I've heard from men and women of multiple ages that have had 10, 20, 30, and sometimes 50 or more partners, mostly due to 'going out and meeting new people' and the perception they've received from this world. A perception very similar, if not the same, as the young teens in the documentary.
Something is telling a very large and impactful percentage of people........."If you are attractive, if you are worthy, and if you are important, other people will want to have sex with you and it will make you feel good about yourself if you do it."
That power of sex starts before we even realize it, way before we’re teens. We were meant to be attracted to the opposite sex. With no shame, and no regard for a future; this concept can be…..excuse me…..IS……is currently dangerous for all of us, for this world, and especially the children of this world.